By my picture you can tell I am all mixed up. You would think that the life of a bi-racial person in America would be more common but it’s not. It depends on the location. And when it comes to being bi-racial, I’m pretty sure I have heard it all. All my life I’ve been asked by many people if I was everything from Hispanic to Middle Eastern to even Indian. So growing up was quite confusing. I started going through an identity crisis trying to figure out where I fit in when I was younger! I never understood why it was so important for people to figure out what I was mixed with!
I’m an interesting case because I’m not mixed with the common black and white. I’m mixed with black and Iranian. And the big thing about being mixed with black is that sometimes you don’t fit in because you’re not “black” enough. When you’re black, it’s like your constantly on trial for your blackness within the community, especially when a light-skin vs dark-skin beef is created or the ‘oh you think you better because you got good hair?’ beef is started. On the other end, with almost any other community I’m instantly put in the “you’re black” box. But despite the ignorant comments, and struggles, I now embrace being bi-racial and wouldn’t change it for the world.
I feel like being mixed with different races gives me a point of view a lot of people don’t have a chance to experience. When you are mixed you have a feeling of compassion and understanding of both races. We don’t think one is superior than the other. It is hard to fall into stereotypes as well because they really don’t exist. Yes, being mixed has its share of challenges, from mind boggling questions from people, to having to take a little longer bubbling in your racial identity preferences on applications, but it makes you appreciate differences and see the beauty in bringing different races together.
Since when and why is race such a big factor? Take time to get to know people that come from different cultures other than your own and learn more about their heritage rather than assuming all people of a certain race are the same. Especially at times like these, equality will never be brought about until we see each other as humans with emotions and feelings rather than bodies with pigments.