It’s beginning to look a lot like New Years. 2015 is almost here and the New Years resolution tradition seems to be holding on strong. Many of us are deciding on goals and accomplishments we are hoping to complete before January 1, 2016. While making the resolution may be a strong tradition, breaking them seems to be even stronger. In 2014, I only completed one New Year’s resolution. I attempted 4. But as I begin to make my list this year I reflect on my past success and failures. And it was pretty obvious why I failed.
If you have a list or about to create one like me take heed to these 6 reasons why people don’t complete their New Years Resolutions.
1) Not having a SMART resolution
Is your resolution Specific, Measurable, Action Oriented, Realistic, and Time oriented? Goals with these attributes are more likely to be completed. Simply vowing to lose weight by the end of the year isn’t a SMART resolution. It’s not specific and it’s not measurable. Listing a realistic amount of weight you would like to lose by a specific date within the year gives you more accountability and a sense of direction.
2) Not understanding the process of change
Change is greatly impacted by your thought process. Truly contemplate on your current actions and your thoughts towards them. Are you really ready to prepare and to take action?
3) Lack of and poor planning
Not only do you acknowledge what you want to change, but you also have to figure out how you are going to change your current situation. How do you realistically plan to save $2,000 by the end of the year? Resolutions tend to require many SMART steps to achieve the New Year’s resolution. For example, “I plan to save 10% of each check I receive within the New Year in order to save $2,000.” Also, relapses are a possibility no matter how SMART your steps are. You should plan how to recover and maintain your new behavior.
4) Not exhibiting self determination
To understand self determination you must understand the 3 concepts that affect self determination during change: autonomy, competence, and relatedness.
Use your autonomy or you’re freedom to make your own decisions wisely. For example you decide if you want to save money or spend it on unnecessary items. Each decision can greatly impact your results.
Be competent in your abilities. Believe in your strengths and accommodate your weaknesses. Reward yourself. Take care of yourself.
Find someone you can relate to, vent to and can hold you accountable. Brag on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram if you desire accountability that way. Yes you will probably receive negative comments but if you can handle that go for it.
5) Instant gratification
Too many of us have a microwave mentality when creating resolutions. We want to reach our goal by February 1st. That’s simply not realistic thinking.
6) Too many resolutions
My four resolutions were simply too much. Each of the four resolutions required and extensive amounts of time outside of my primary responsibilities. I wanted to read 1 book a month for the year. Well my resolution to begin grad school annihilated that resolution. This year I decided to create resolutions 3 resolutions within my required responsibilities (finances, school and faith) and 1 that is considered an extracurricular fitness activity (Yoga or Muay Thai).
All in all, I think New Years Resolutions is a great tradition. It encourages individuals to attempt to create a positive change in their lifestyle. But remember you don’t always have to wait until New Years to create a positive change in life.
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