I don’t know why people get so upset when people say you’ve changed. I thought that’s what we were supposed to do. As we grow up, we change. I know for a fact I’m nothing like I was 5 years ago and I thank God for that everyday.
“Cue The Rant!”
Watching people, especially women, grow up and mature is surely an interesting thing. I had a conversation with my friend about 8 or 9 years ago about girls and dating. We both conceded that we were pretty regular, nice guys and we concluded that while we were young, we both were mature for our ages.
We also realized that guys like us (nice, mature guys) really weren’t slated to win in love early in life because we weren’t the girls our age cup of tea. They liked different, more exciting guys. They liked bad boys. And hey, how can you blame them. One thing a woman does not like to be is bored. Bad guys were exciting. Bad guys lit their primordial urge to be treated like a true woman. We got that and understood that.
We also understood that these urges that women exhibit would dramatically change over time. We knew that we were going to be those guys that women wanted when they got older. After following their dream guys back in the day and either getting their heart broken or realizing the guys were no good they’d grow up and starting looking for something different.
You see, we understood we were like fine wine. We were going to get better with time. Good guys grow up to become great men. And after satisfying their primordial urges and still coming away unfulfilled, some women will realize and crave something different. They grow up and start to value security. They start to appreciate future as opposed to the present. They want to actually build something and realize that they need someone of substance to build with.
And it’s not about lowering your standards. It’s about opening your mind and figuring out what’s really important to you. You have to identify what you REALLY want and your non-negotiables. And they need to be character and personality traits because those are the things that are somewhat constant. As we get older our values change and we adjust our lives accordingly. The physical will change so you can’t build off of it.
Me and my friend understood the concepts of change and permanency early in life. We knew in order to adapt and grow people had to change.
I’ve changed quite a bit as well especially over the last 5-7 years. I used to be much more of an observer. I cared more about others feelings to the point where it would affect my own. But as I aged and experienced different things I became more confident. I became the boisterous, ranting man you know today.
One of the things I’ve come to accept in life is that no matter how much we don’t like it, change is constant. It is, in fact, the only constant; the only true guarantee. Things will change. Love ones will pass. Friends will move. Relationships will come and go. But it’s how we handle ourselves in the face of adversity is what truly determines our character.
That’s it for this week. Don’t forget to cue the Sir Charles.